Recently we celebrated our 30th Wedding Anniversary. Honestly it feels like only a few short months since out 25th and not much longer since, well, you know how the story goes… it all just flies by in a flash and before you know it, your kids are grown and you’ve been married 30 years!
How does one stay married for 30 years? I am no expert (other than the glaringly obvious factor – experience!) but I feel it has a lot to do with commitment. In the rough times, when the nicer elements like love, affinity and humour are not so much in play, it really does come down to commitment. We made a set of personal promises to each other and we have stood by them, no matter what.
We celebrated in our usual style – we both love food and over the last few years have taken to ticking the boxes off our dream restaurant list when a celebration calls for it. This time I got to tick Aria off my list of ‘must do’ restaurants. Lunch is our preferred time to dine in special restaurants so we can see the view and stay awake during the sometimes long hours of glorious eating! This anniversary lunch we got to share with one of our daughters who, out of the blue was available!
Aria is in an amazing location in Sydney, overlooking the Opera House, Circular Quay and the Harbour Bridge. It has consistently won the People’s Choice award and for those who are interested, it has two ‘hats’ and is Chef Matt Moran’s (of Masterchef fame) restaurant.
The food was amazing. Talk about attention to detail! The service was outstanding as was everything else. We had a truly wonderful four hours that nourished our souls as well as our bodies.
Since our anniversary I’ve been thinking more about creative commitment. While I can happily say I’ve been married for 30 years, I have a little more difficulty, if I’m honest, in saying I paint and draw regularly. For some reason I just can’t fathom or overcome, my art practice comes way down the bottom of the list of important things to do now and it really doesn’t seem to matter when ‘now’ is.
Part of why I started this website is to keep me both motivated and to get me to take responsibility for what I do (or not do, as the case probably is), so this little reflection on commitment has come at a very good time. I guess I just have to stick with it, through the good and bad times, just as with any other commitment. I had a feeling I needed to take my creativity out to dinner and show her a good time, to bring the ‘romance’ back into my painting and drawing. And so The Artling came about.
Creative Commitment versus Personal Promise
So I’m good at being married but rubbish at putting my art first and just doing it. What if I started to think about my creative life in a way similar to how I think about my marriage? What if I made a personal promise to myself to love, honour and cherish my creative urges? What if I made that promise it the public arena, just like my wedding vows were stated? What if I stuck with it, no matter what?
My beloved creativity, I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love, honour and cherish you all the days of my life. You, my dear The Artling readers, are my witness to this promise.
I must say that I do feel somehow changed by taking this vow.
How did you learn to put your creativity high up on your priority list? What do you do to make sure you get your creative fill each day, week or whatever? What tips can you give me to help me thrive in the early days of my new creative marriage? Please share!
These sketches were done in my self-made book. This book contains a variety of papers and page sizes. I decided to do this spread where there was a smaller page which would hide the food and the writing on the first opening but reveal them once the smaller leaf has been turned. (See both images to view the composite views.) I have a huge problem with drawing my family members! They never look like themselves!!! Although the second drawing of my daughter looks more like her than usual for me. (Ink and watercolour.)